How are you? No Really, How are you?

Having the ability to accurately know how we are can be incredibly helpful; being able to share how we are can be life changing.

Do you SPIKE or do you DIP?

Explode RED or implode PURPLE?

Or do you even know?

Life can get BIG sometimes, what is your BIG?

My name is Matt, once a teacher now a counsellor and I can help. A chat with Matt can be a helpful way to untangle the BIG STUFF that you may have right now. STUFF I often chat with others includes:

Stress and Anxiety at school that may be leading to:

low attendance - "I can't even get in there" or "I don't want to go"
low mood - "CBA" or "just leave me alone"
reactive behaviour - "WTF" or "what's the point?"
exam stress - "I can't do this!!", "where do I start?" or "it's too late"
friendships - "I don't want to be with them" or "I don't know what I've done"

Stress and Anxiety outside of school - STUFF, any other STUFF. The STUFF we carry around that bogs us down or fires us up!

We all have STUFF, the difference is some of us do our best to untangle it and understand it. Only then does our STUFF get smaller, understood and we gain the ability to manage it.

Feel free to get in touch.

Contact Matt today on 07716 369689 or matt@elephantcounselling.co.uk to discuss how this can positively impact on your well-being.

Matt

What my clients say…

Matt… your work is priceless!!

L and I met with Mrs J this morning. L names all the things that got him ‘out of the green’ once he arrived in the classroom: the noise, the business, the pain he feels when he is holding a pencil. He was able to offer ideas of what would help him. He was able at 9 years old to support himself and verbalise his needs and what he finds a struggle. He was also able to understand that these things may not ‘fix’ what he struggles with but that they can be tried and revisited if needs be… Priceless.

You are an inspiration.

LB (MUM)

"Matt, thank you for everything you have done for me.
Thank you for absolutely changing my life.
Thank you for saving my life."

I know you are supposed to keep everything we talk about confidential, but I absolutely give you my permission to use anything we have spoken about if you see it in any way possible that it could help someone else.

When we first started talking, I was a broken man and on a downward spiral into a pit of suicidal depression. With a lot of hard work and a lot of patience you have slowly turned me around, more than I ever thought was possible. From just a blank ‘meh’ and only having a range of red or green, to a scale of meh’s and a rainbow of colours to show my mood, to remembering what a bit of happiness feels like and finally allowing me to see some light at the end of the tunnel.

At the start, just a single trip on my own or eating in a restaurant alone seemed like an impossible task. But slowly building the confidence I was able to achieve both of those. Now, ironically I almost prefer doing these things alone! Not thinking that I would ever do that, but now absolutely loving it.

From all of the small trips away and the weekends or days out on my own has all been building up to this absolutely massive life changing trip I am about to embark on. Thank you for building that in me.

MJ

"Hi Matt, I just wanted to let you know what a changed child that I have got since this time last year when we started to see you. He has got off to a really good start at high school, is enjoying the variety and challenges and coping with it OK so far. His tutor is changing on a daily basis due to the assigned tutor being off sick and he is coping with it well.

I truly believe he wouldn’t be on this trajectory without your input. At the moment he gets off to sleep well every night and there are no signs of the anxiety, tearfulness and low feelings he was having last year.

Coming to see you for a while made a fundamental change to how he manages himself and to his outlook."

EN (Mum)